My morning's fresh facebook meme was from Arundhati
Roy. "There’s really no such
thing as the ‘voiceless.’ There are only the deliberately silenced, or the
preferably unheard."
These days I have very little patience for those who are
unwilling to look at their position of privilege. Nothing sparks my Kali tongue like an older white,
middle class man telling me what's "best" for me. Even if he "means well." While I do appreciate that in I've
learned to keep my mouth closed while my heart and tongue burn, I have to
wonder if that's really "best."
It certainly works for the old white dudes when I stay quiet. I do believe in peace and kindness, but
I do not believe that restraint is always the best response to anger. Especially when it comes to oppression.
That being said, I can't help but note that I am white. Also, I'm young, healthy, decent
looking, have tended toward romantic partners of the opposite sex, and was
raised Catholic (which is not as proper American as being Protestant, but still
more Christian and "acceptable" than all of the other options.) When I get down and out, I get a LOT of support. Of course, a trust fund or an Ivy
League legacy would be super helpful, but I work with what I got- plenty of
friends and strangers who are willing to lend a hand. Would I get so much help
if I weren't a young, thin, white chic with a Christian upbringing and a
boyfriend?
Or, the flip side.
What if I wasn't raised in a working class community by a working class
family? What if I weren't poor
most of my life? What if I weren't brought up by Catholic parents, with swarms
of cousins around me at all times.
What if I were brought up wealthy and Protestant? Would I have learned
be so damn loud about what I need?
Or would I be stuck in a Protestant straight jacket, stifled by the
cultural heritage of status quo?
If you are not asking what life would be like if you were
not you, for heaven's sake please start.
For a better world, start!
Actually perhaps the question isn't "What would it be
like if I weren't me?" No,
actually, the question is "What's it like to be you?"
It's excruciating! I am SO afraid of hurting someone by bumping into
their pain. So, for fear of making
things worse, under the spell of age-old guilt, how many times have I just stepped
around and over and completely ignored someone else's pain? Or, oh, I hate to even say it; what if
I have been hurting you without knowing it. What if I've been ignorant?
Seeing as we've made room in our culture for the idea that
every sinner is a saint, perhaps we can all admit our ignorance. I'd love to hear more people say
"I can be an ignorant, fucking privileged asshole. Help." And then, "What's it like to be you?"
Here. I'll
start.
"Hi. I'm
Diane. I want to be a real writer,
and I want to be a real peace-maker, but holy fuck I'm scared. I can be an ignorant, privileged
asshole! And I've been super hurt
by ignorant, privileged assholes.
So I get real quiet sometimes.
Other times I make a whole lot of useless noise to cover up all the fear
and anger. But really, I just need
help with this. What do you
think? What's it like to be you?"
What will it take, you think, before we ALL feel free to
tell our truth?
What the hell is Truth if it isn't free for us all?
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